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With great weather and a desire to be adventurous, there’s no excuse for you and your partner not to go on a date. Don’t have enough money, you say? Here are 20 ideas for memorable dates that won’t set you back more than $20.
1. Find the best happy hour in town. Look through your newspaper or search online for local restaurants and bars with happy hours. Most places offer half-price food and drink specials, allowing you to get two drinks and share an appetizer for less than $20. I personally LOVE happy hours.
2. Go to a museum. Most museums either have free admission or offer free entry on certain days of the month.
3. Visit your local zoo. Most zoos offer adult tickets for less than $10. Pack your own snacks and bottled water and have a mini picnic while you’re there.
4. Go on a romantic hike. Bring a backpack and surprise your partner with a bottle of champagne, glasses and fresh strawberries. IN LA go to Pacific Palasades instead of dog pooh Runyon.
5. Go swimming at your local pool, lake or beach. Bring some water toys and have more fun than the kids.
6. Beat the heat with an ice cream date. Take two scoops to the park, or take a walk downtown and go people watching. These are my favorites!
7. Hit the dollar movie theater. Lots of cities have discount movie theaters showing second-run features. Pick a rainy day and have a movie marathon.
8. Take a downtown walking tour. Discover things and places you never knew existed. While you’re there, pick up a free visitors guide for more date ideas.
9. Plan a cheap picnic. Go on a picnic at the beach, mountains or in your own backyard. Grab a blanket, pack a deli sandwich and a bottle of $5 wine. If you do this at the right time..you’ll get to see the sun set and God you’ll be the MAN!!!
10. Take a blanket to the beach. Split your budget between a bottle of wine and cheese, then enjoy the sunset while you snuggle on a blanket. Same thing.
11. Stroll through the botanical gardens. Spend the day
walking hand in hand through rose gardens and tropical rainforests, for less than $10 a ticket.
12. Be a kid again. Go bowling, play miniature golf, ride go-carts or play laser tag.
13. Build a bonfire. All you need is some firewood, snacks and a drink of your choice. This is also a great opportunity to make ’smores.
14. Rent something. Go roller- or ice-skating, rent a two-seater bike and pedal through the park, or paddle a boat on a pond.
15. Paint pottery together. Lots of studios let you get creative for around $6 an hour.
16. Pitch a tent. Park fees are usually less than $10, which leaves money for food and firewood. Go camping and roast hot dogs as you gaze at the stars.
17. Go wine tasting. Most wineries charge around $5 for a tasting of five different wines — plus,
you’ll get to keep the glass as a souvenir of your date.
18. Take a scenic drive. Pull over to have coffee and dessert at a nice cafe.
19. Explore local galleries and artists. Many cities have art walks one night a month during the summer, with the bonus of a free glass of wine.
20. Rack ‘em up at your local pool joint. With pool games costing less than $2, you might even have money left over to share a pitcher of beer.
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The other day I was out at my favorite bar, alone. It was a Friday night and I wanted to get out of the house and be social.
That’s usually why people go to bars. To be social. But being a date coach, I really wanted to see what problems “regular” guys have. So I made sure to look good and I sat at a table for two or so then ordered a burger. I sat and sipped my drink while I waited.
At the bar were two guys who were obviously there to meet women. Although there were a lot of women there, I knew they’d be checking me out more sooner than later….or so I thought.
First they stared at me. Not aggressively but more like passively. They would look at me, then look at the club and repeat this. After a certain point I could feel them looking at me and it got a little annoying. Like did they really think I would come up and talk to them, no matter how much they stared. It wasn’t going to happen.
All they had to do was come up and say hello. It’s not too hard.
Then one finally got the nerve to come talk to me. Except not really. He walked past me towards the bathroom mumbling something like, “you look pretty today.” I didn’t even get a chance to acknowledge him because he kept moving. Then he stood in the bathroom line and started with the damn staring again.
I laughed a bit to myself.
Next he came over again and said something. He was so scared I felt bad for him. Then he started talking and I invited him to sit (which would not happen in real life) I just wanted to see what would happen. He sat and I engaged in some un-comfy chatter with him. I really tried making him feel normal. Five seconds later a girl spots him and his scared ass and figures I need rescuing. So she comes over and talks to me, completely alienating him.
He allowed it. Moments later he left.
I actually didn’t want him to leave. But I didn’t have the heart to embarrass the poor girl who thought she was saving me.
After I finished my burger, his friend came to me.
Now this one was funny as hell! He tips to me, almost like I’m a poisonous cobra, really low and fast, “would you like a drink.”
“Oh, thank you…but no,” I said smiling.
He only heard the oh thank you part and he tip toed away before he could be rejected. I share all this to say, don’t be scared fellas. We are just people. And there is a probability that you will not get a phone number or make a love connection but there is also a chance that you will. These guys didn’t know either way. They were lacking confidence.
Confidence is so important. Even if someone does not want to talk to you, if you have confidence and you appear fun, no harm no foul. We all face rejection. Me included. I’ve gone to clubs and wanted to dance with guys and they say no..and guess what? I’m still here. Didn’t die.
Have fun when you go out. Meet people. Mingle. Everyone is there for the same reason as you. So at least you have that in common…then you take it from there.
We all know that first impressions are important right? I mean really important, as in you won’t get to make a second impression if your first impression is wack. If you “don’t care” that’s fine but just realize you might either be really lonely or even worse, end up dating a girl who “doesn’t care,” with smelly hairy armpits and all.
Looks are important! Guys like pretty girls and pretty girls…well we get our pick. But we never pick someone who looks as if they don’t care about themselves. Yesterday I had the unique experience of meeting a guy, blind date style. We both had plenty of time to get dressed. I looked great, I wore a bright summer dress that showed my legs and I’ve been running alot lately so they look really good. I did my hair, put on some make up and even jewelry. It was also Friday and I didn’t know if I were going out afterwards.
This guys looked like shit. He had a dingy sleeveless shirt, with shiny red knee length shorts, and gym shoes with socks. His hair was way too long and his face was unshaven, but not in a dirty sexy way…just in a dirty way. He said he showered but my mind is powerful cause I could have sworn he stunk.
I let him pick the location. I wanted to do a bar for happy hour. He picked an actual restaurant. Bad idea, because if we aren’t eating dinner then it won’t be comfortable. For first encounters, especially off the net, blind dates, old friends you haven’t seen etc, do a bar, coffee place, tea bar something where you can be comfortable just chill and drink. But really the goal is to be able to leave within a short time if need be.
You get me?
How this date should have gone is this. The guy should have showered, shaved and put some product in that hair, or better yet, keep it cut at Supercuts. His outfit should have been causal but sexy. Nice jeans and a beautful shirt or tshirt. He should have wore cologne and shoes with some style. He needed to look like he cared. Then from there he could have met me at a coffee shop or bar and he would have had a shot. Not just at me, but at a shit load of women. We are not that hard fellas!
If you don’t know what we like, let me help you. I ended up offereing my services to him for free. Doubt if he takes it.
I’m working on my book, but some how my TV turned itself (don’t you hate when that happens?) on to one of those trashy talk shows. You know the ones…Jerry Springer, Maury…all those types. Who are these people and where do they come from?
So, I am watching and this one lady said that while she and her boyfriend were broken up for two months she had sex with someone else. They were there for a paternity test, he was the father.
You know what I thought? I thought…how many guys and girls have a field day during their “break-up.” They know they are getting back together or at the least, they know that there was no closure in the relationship. Yet they screw as many people as they can in those short weeks, or days. I remember I’d even heard of a cat having sex with someone when he was broken up with his girlfriend for several hours! That wasn’t a breakup, that was a planned affair 
ha ha.
My only point is this, if you are going to date someone and play the break up game…be prepared to be “broken up” because that’s the only thing that can come from that. Most women are all about stability, mental, emotional, financial…we want to feel stable. If you can offer that, it’s awesome. It’s huge.
And usually relationships are like that class in high school where you start out with an A and have to loose it. You remember that class? I do. And I always wanted my report card on the first day :-).
For most women, when we start the relationship, you get an A. You get all the trust we can give. But then later you will start to loose the trust. Like if you say you are going to call and don’t, 5 points deducted. If you stand her up for a date, 20 points deducted. If you are confused all the time about plans you created, 15 points deducted. If you don’t ever answer your phone…it goes on and on until the next thing you know…she’s looking for someone else to date.
So if you like a girl, put your best foot forward. It’s not hard, unless you aren’t a man of your word. Even if you aren’t a man of your word, start now. Start somewhere. Or better yet, don’t say you are going to do something and then flake out.
Keep that A, you’re going to need something to bring that GPA up anyway.
Can a girl really have casual sex? I have gone out with guys and after a few dates, they thought we were going to have sex. I don’t see the correlation at all. I’m always confused by this. Don’t get me wrong there is an age where young women can regroup a little faster from lost love than older women. But fellas I know a lot of women…I mean a lot and I have never met one who just wanted to fuck a guy just to fuck him. I can hear your thoughts coming through the paper, so I’ll give two popular “what ifs” based on what I’ve seen and heard.
Example One- What if it’s a One Night Stand?
Your eyes met across the floor of some crowded club. You walked over to her and the chemistry is so thick, everyone can’t help but notice. You dance on the floor and it’s merely a preview of what’s to come, no pun intended. You’re hard and she’s loving every minute of it.
You two go back to your place and get it on.
This is the reality-the girl thought you were hot and that you liked her back in return. If the sex was good, she’ll want to have sex with you again, and eventually hang out with you. Why wouldn’t she? Based on the little that she knows of you, you already have the foundation of a boyfriend, you look good and you can fuck!
Yeah, we’re pretty basic.
So now the next part is simple in her mind, she’ll just get to know you. You can’t be that bad. A one night stand did cross her mind, but you seemed different (unless you’re in Vegas etc). We just don’t think like that. You don’t call and she’s sad, you hurt her feelings you fart.
Example Two- What if she’s a slut?
Ok, so what is a slut? I looked it up and it means “A person, especially a woman, considered sexually promiscuous.” Thanks Dictionary. Com. What I’ve seen is that guys treat sluts as if they have no feelings. Like she’s laying there just waiting for men to run a train on her. I’ve seen sluts, I know them. And each guy that she meets and has sex with, she likes and again if the sex is good, she will come back in hopes of something else. Assuming the girl isn’t a nympo. Sluts have feelings, for starter they are very giving. They give too much, if you know what I mean. But they are still people who are ultimately looking for a good man like everyone else. If anything, when you think a girl is a slut, get to know her because, on the real, she’s looking for a friend. And by the way…don’t be so judgmental, cause chances are your mama was slut to somebody.
So before you have some casual sex…just drop a dub and get a whore. Shit, it’s business and nobody’s confused…especially you.
Sometimes when we see something we really want, we go after it full force, like “balls to the walls,” “get it or die trying”…you know? But when you are dealing with people, especially pretty women, this could be your demise.
See rich men are always trying to control pretty women anyway. Almost like possessions, well, not almost, exactly like possessions. I used to notice it with guys that I went out when I was younger. I was so confused by it that I started to research it…and I noticed that an extreme behavior of controlling and dominating pretty women was called the “Centerfold Syndrome.”
Funny title huh?
I think so.
The Centerfold Syndrome is when a guy goes after a pretty girl, only because she’s pretty and then tries to control her, to the point of abuse and mind control. He convences himself that he can’t do without her. Now the average guy is not like, that mind you…but chances are the pretty girl that you are trying to talk to has encountered that before, and if not her, her best friend. So she’ll be on the lookout for controlling characteristic.
Coming on too strong can be mistaken for controlling.
A sure ways to make sure that you don’t come off too strong is to loosen up. Body language is so important. When you approach this pretty lady, relax, smile, treat her like you would a friend. Chat with her for a moment, try to see if you even want to take the time to go out with her and spend your hard earned money. J
In addition to relax, make sure your eyes are relaxed, pay no attention to the guy across the way who wants to talk to her too, that’s not your problem.
Don’t stare her down, let you eyes engage in the conversation, and also look around at other things. You want to show her that you aren’t “pressed.” That just means that you can take her or leave her. But not in an arrogant way, in a confident way. You see the difference right? I can’t stand arrogance, ha ha I think it’s the number one turn off of Playmates. But I love confidence.
Coming on strong is a state of mind, replace it with just being cool. And you won’t scare anyone and you’ll get some dates.
I know that it seems like your myspace page is no big deal but you will be surprised to learn how many girls look you up once they meet you. As a result you fellas need to really check out what you put on there and please don’t play stupid with the “it’s just entertainment” line.
We all know better.
For example, I wanted to hook a guy up with a girlfriend of mine. I wanted to email her a picture so I asked for his myspace address. He gave it to me and I checked out the page just to see…boy, oh boy! I couldn’t introduce him to anyone! His page was full of girls in bikinis and all types of nonsense.
It made him look foolish and the sad part was that he didn’t get it. I tried to explain it to him and he still didn’t get it.
This is how it works. Women are vain and we like to feel like we are the only one. So we check things out…we google. We see if the little status thing on your page says single..or taken (whatever the options are, I don’t know). And if you are a person that we wouldn’t normally date, we are looking for reasons to get rid of you.
So you have to make yourself perfect, well not really perfect but don’t get yourself knocked out of the game over bullcrap.
I teach the average guy how to date beautiful women. You have strenghts, lots of them but you also have weaknesses. When I’ve have the pleasure of dating average guys, they virtually made it impossible for me not to, by being so much better than the rich playboys that I was accustomed to.
Just something to think about.
Everything that you touch and create represents you, that includes your apartment, myspace page, car…everything. And we look and take notice, best believe we do.
I read an article today about the Bunny Book. Some lady from a 3rd rate newspaper in New York called and I gave her an interview. She wrote the humor section of the paper, and when I read the article, the only thing funny to me was how big of a HATER she is.
New York is a miserable place. I know a few Playmates from there and they are sweet and normal but I don’t think they are the norm. The lady who interviewed me is from the midwest like I am, in the article, she also interviewed two “cute” and “talented” women on the street and asked them what they thought of the book.
One girl said “cheeseball” and maybe it’s just my active imagination but I could hear it being snorted out of her big fat nose.
Cute, the interviewer called them. Humm, if she were even remotely “cute” she would have been bumped up to pretty automatically. So cute from this woman means the girl was ugly. Keep it real, old women are way too generous with their compliments. And “talented,” she gives this book to the damn girl while they are on the street, what makes her so freaggin talented? Tell me, inquiring minds want to know!
The fact of the matter is that article was written by an “average” interviewing two “averages” on my book. So of course they wouldn’t have anything good to say. Averages are to Playmates what Kryptonite is to Superman…you get me? It’s not pretty, I can tell you some stories.
Then the interviewer went to a guy and asked if a sneaky little technique I have for meeting guys works…of course the girls she spoke to would “never.” Guess what the guy said? “Men aren’t hard to figure out.”
That’s the moral of the story when it’s all said and done. The book is a playful silly book about how we have fun in the life that we live and how we have learned to look good and get our guys. It’s not meant for women who wear full underwear…it’s for thong girls. It’s not meant for girls who don’t arch their brows, wear gloss and can’t laugh at themselves, or us when we are clearly laughing too.
That lady gets a fart, with one leg up. Sorry you guys have to see this..I can be bit
ruthless…and damnit I’m trying to teach myself to be nicer.
Everytime I go out…I’m pulled right back in!
So I’m noticing that a few guys have a hard time admitting to “liking” a girl. Even to themselves. I have no idea why that is. But it’s ok to like a girl and to feel out of control, happy and scared shitless at the same time. To me, that’s what life is all about.
Not sure, but I think it’s called L-O-V-E.
I don’t mean to scare any of you with the L word. But it doesn’t mean you are less of a man, or that the woman is in “control.”
What does that mean anyway? I’ve heard so many guys say that -”they don’t want to lose control.” Why not?
What’s so bad about that? Here’s what I’m noticing. Guys fall in love first then convince the girl to love them. Ha ha. I really think that…or maybe it’s that guys fall in love first and then the girls takes longer just to make sure that the guys isn’t pulling her leg.
But once the girl falls in love, she becomes a solid object. You can’t move her. Women are loyal creatures but we aren’t stupid.
Sometime we meet a guy and say ”that’s my future ex-husband.” But that’s a little rare. In my opinion guys do it just a little more often and can come out of it once they discover as problem.
When I am dating a guy and they start to tell me how much they like me and how much it scares them, I tell them to like me now and enjoy it. None of us are guaranteed tomorrow, if you know what I’m saying, so enjoy.
To feel, is to be alive. Remember that.